Every person that walks this earth is different from the next. The only advice I can give to you is to make your OWN place in the world. So many people live by thought that they have to be accepted by others in order to find their place in the world. Hell, I struggle with it too. Everyone wants to be “accepted” by another because it feels good! But that means you are defining yourself by what others think about you.
There’s a quote that I love that relates to this, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”
I don’t have all the answers. I don’t even have half the answers I need for myself. But I can tell you in order to feel like you belong, you have to focus on yourself. Who you are. Who you want to be, who you don’t want to be. I’m 21 years old and have gone through probably 10 different phases of who I am, and i’ll probably go through another 10 more. But in order to figure out who you are/want to be, you have to go through a lot of the things you don’t want to get there. You are not lost, you are normal! Be patient, be kind, and do one thing a day that truly makes you smile. You will find yourself.
I’ve always been relatively flexible, so I didn’t start out too badly. But I always wanted to do what all the really good yogis were doing too. Don’t ever feel like you aren’t good enough for yoga. Yoga is a practice that is tailored so that you can modify any pose to what feels good for you! Ive been practicing solidly for 4-5 years and just recently started doing headstands and things out of my comfort zone. It takes a lot of consistent practice. I mean honestly I can barely touch my toes, i’m not perfect! That’s just how my body is. Everyone’s body is different, but it also depends on how much you train your muscles to work with you. You should feel great about yourself for trying something new! The more you practice the better you will feel! Good luck :)
My first yoga experience was kind of spontaneous. My mother had actually recommended that I do it. So I went to a beginners class and literally just watched the instructor, without knowing any of the poses or sequences, and ended up loving it. From then on I just kept going to the beginners class until I knew the names of the poses and had the strength to really nail the class. Then I decided to go to harder classes and so on. Don’t be scared to hop in a class you’ve never been to. You can even tell your instructor it’s your first time and they will help you, I promise. I belong to a studio and go as much as I possibly can. But I follow Rachel Brathen and Caitlin Turner on instagram and they are so inspirational. They also post different poses every day so you can learn a lot from them! I hope you have a wonderful yoga-filled journey ahead of you :)